Be Do Have
In 2013, Ting started this coaching education in The Coaching Institute and soon became an accredited life coach. In general, life coaching is to explore people’s inside and help them find what they want and achieve their goals. Ting had found his passion after so many years’ endeavour. Variety of methodologies are being used in life coaching. Ting shared a very powerful mindset that we could apply in our life and work straight away. It is called “Be Do Have”.
- Starting with “Be” – who you want to be
- Followed by “Do” – what actions you will take
- Then “Have” – what outcome you will get
They are connected with each other:
[Who you want to be] makes you choose [what actions you will take] impacts the result [What outcome you will get] validates [What you want to be] at the start.
Most people believe if they “have” a thing (more time, money, love etc.), then they can finally “do” a thing (start a business, go on vacation, buy a house, undertake a relationship), which will allow them to “be” a thing (happy, peaceful, content, or in love). In fact, they are reversing the Be-Do-Have paradigm.
First you “be” the thing called (peaceful, content, or in love), then you start “doing” things from this place of being, and soon you discover that what you are doing winds up bringing you the things you’ve always wanted to “have.”
This is very a powerful mindset and let’s just try it.
Set goals and execute them
When Ting reflected on the past decade, he believed that two key things took him to where he is today.
- Write down your goals – Set goals at the beginning of each year.
“In 2015, I had 8 goals and achieved 6 of them. It is okay not achieving 100% as long as you have goals each year and you’ve achieved something” – Ting
- Execute your goals wisely – Always have someone to hold your hand throughout the process. That could be a peer accountability group, a mentor, or a coach.
“A lot of people set up goals each year but incomplete at execution because they lack a strong support system. Why it is recommended to have support from someone? Because sometimes we know what we know, but we don’t know what we don’t know. Mentor and coach could guide you finding the answers.” – Ting
Three pieces of advice
At the end of our conversation, Ting was asked to give three pieces of advice to people who are pursuing their passion:
- Be open – open to opportunities, open to connect with people and find your game changing moments, open to ideas and recommendations that others give you.
- Be curious – stay curious to the possibilities in life. Desire to know more about yourself, surroundings where you could source the power of leaning forward as the desire is coming from the inside you – remember: Be Do Have.
- Take it easy – life is so short, treat yourself and people you love well. enjoy your life and be grateful for what you have been given.
“I came to Australia 11 years ago with nothing: no work experience, no money, and no resources. I didn’t even know how to speak English. Over the past 11 years, I have achieved so many life goals. Now, I have a happy, loving family, very healthy relationship, several passive income channels, and my own business. Most importantly, I have time to do what I love.” – Ting
Try to leave your comfort zone to pursue bigger goals.
Challenge yourself by doing things you are not good at and don’t give up.
You are never too good to be great.